Sticks & Stones





  1. Benton August 18, 2015 at 10:22 pm - Reply

    This was more difficult and uncomfortable than I ever would have predicted. I felt like every one of my answers needed an asterisk indicating “sometimes” or “compared to some people.” And we ARE complex. But now I also wonder if focusing on my complexity is actually a bit defensive. For example, what would it mean to just say “I am beautiful” or “I am smart” without an asterisk? It is uncomfortable. And the asterisk may be a way of avoiding that discomfort. Perhaps there is a way to get more comfortable instead.

    • ORU12 September 11, 2015 at 2:51 pm - Reply

      I think I detect a little Midwest Modesty in your response. We are raised to not be self-promoting or to believe compliments. From an early age we are taught to not expect or accept positive feedback but to take negative criticism seriously. Maybe that’s part of the reason that so many successful Midwesterners have to move to the coasts before they succeed.

  2. blanche August 29, 2015 at 6:29 pm - Reply

    I too didn’t know how to answer some of the more difficult and and negative descriptions. For instance I answered “yes” to I Am Bossy because I am bossy to my family but not to my friends. It’s because of my role as a mother and wife and grand organizer of all things family. Or perhaps it’s my way of trying to control my family but not my friends. hmmmm….
    For the most part I learned that I do have a positive self image, more than I realized.

  3. Nathan August 30, 2015 at 3:14 pm - Reply

    Definitely evoked some thoughts about thinking through being too busy and therefore preoccupied and coming across as selfish and/or insensitive. That is something I can work on, and even speak about with others. At least speaking about it could allow for a connection rather than being distant and self absorbed.

  4. ORU12 September 11, 2015 at 2:44 pm - Reply

    I think I either have a very positive view of myself or I’m totally clueless…maybe both.The odd thing was interpreting whether some of the statements were negative or positive. Words like foolish, weird and silly could be taken as negative but I am proud to be all three. Others were difficult because it depends on circumstances like courageous. I can fight the good fight and stand up for my friends and family but when it comes to small risks I am often paralyzed with indecision and doubt.

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